When Ambition Exceeds Capacity

May 25

Learning to align our drive and ambition with our genuine capacity tends to be one of those lessons that ADHD entrepreneurs learn the hard way - through cycles of shame, regret, and burnout.

But what if there is a better way, like listening to this conversation between two seasoned ADHD coaches? Meredith and I have both struggled with our own untamed ambition and learned that not all ideas need to be pursued, and how to stretch your capacity without snapping like a rubber band.

I met speaker, writer, and fellow ADHD coach Meredith Carder at the Neurodiversion 2025 conference in March, although we had known of each other for years. I knew she’d be the perfect guest to discuss drive, ambition, shame, and self-compassion. Like most women, Meredith was diagnosed well into adult life and even wrote a book about it, called “Now Everything Makes Sense.”

If your ADHD includes hyperactivity and impulsivity, and you’re one of those people who has been coming up with business ideas since you were a kid, this inspiring and vulnerable conversation is for you.

5 Things You’ll Learn from This Episode:

ADHD Ambition: The difference between having the impulse to chase a goal and the drive to see it through

Dealing with Expectations (Yours & Others) We share the steps to untangling your self-worth from traditional measures of success.

Bandwidth, Burnout & Self-Compassion: Our ideas may be unlimited, but our ability to execute them isn’t. Adapting to your actual energy (not what “should” be possible) is a game-changer.

How to Decide What Deserves Your Focus: Meredith & I share practical, down-to-earth advice for “vetting” your ambitions, resisting impulsivity, and learning to stretch (not snap!) your capacity.

Shedding Shame & Rewriting Your Story Hear Meredith’s journey from hiding her pivots to embracing her multi-passionate path—yes, you can experience both radical self-acceptance and constant reinvention.

Fun Fact From the Episode!

Both Meredith and I have been nicknamed “hummingbird” thanks to our tendency to quickly flit from one idea to the next, and both of us live where hummingbirds visit frequently. How cool is that?

Mentioned during our conversation:

Neurodiversion 2025 - where Meredith and I met

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