Actually, It Is All About You

blog confidence Jul 21, 2021

Have you ever been in the position of needing to find a way to fit in, belong or make connections in a new city? I am reminded of this right now because I moved from Los Angeles, where I had lived since birth, to Portland, OR two years ago. I didn't know a single person here, but I was ready for a change and my plan is to make Portland home. Well, thanks to the pandemic, I still only got a chance to meet a handful of people, but I'm still an extrovert by nature, so it's only a matter of...

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Stretch, Don't Settle

Whether you're looking for a romantic partner or searching for your next job opportunity, we're essentially talking about supply and demand. Having something to offer (aka being "marketable") is obviously important, but so is what we are thinking about our situation. One of my clients is a 47-year-old man who is changing jobs and my 20-year-old niece is single and looking for her next boyfriend. I'm struck by the similarities in their unconscious beliefs about themselves and the world, even...

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You'll Never Know Until You Try

confidence Jun 09, 2021

While slogging away on the treadmill at 5:30 this morning, I had Rachel Hollis in my earholes. She was answering a listener question about making a hard decision. Her advice was spot on. Just choose. Choose and commit. This will get you into motion, instead of overthinking and spinning your wheels. Once you've gotten rolling, you can reassess, but if you're still in the starting blocks, you have no data to analyze whether you made the right choice, or not.

By now, I was sweating, not just...

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Ask & You Shall Receive

confidence Apr 28, 2021

My first career was in medical sales, at a time when women were just starting to infiltrate the traditionally male-dominated field. I started off as a sales rep for a major pharmaceutical company on a salary plus bonus. Because of the way sales are tracked, I only got the bonus if my sales district met its quota. In other words, I really wasn't incentivized to bust my ass and be a superstar because when I did, I was carrying the slackers in the district. A few years later, I scored a major...

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Different, Not Deficient

confidence Apr 26, 2021
 

It makes me angry that acknowledging a mental health diagnosis and receiving help is still a source of stigma and shame.  I am grateful to the brave and clever people who have taken to YouTube, Instagram, and TikTok, not to mention those who have started podcasts, to normalize mental health conditions by dropping their masks and sharing their struggles. They have done more to raise awareness and spread hope in the last few years than the psychiatric community has been able to do...

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Change, Habits & Fear, Oh My!

confidence Apr 12, 2021
 

Lately, we have been talking a lot about fear.  In last week’s guest expert interview with John Sovec, we talked about How to Keep Fear From Holding You Back. In this week’s solo episode, we will continue on the theme by discussing how it’s natural to feel that change is hard, how to deal with the fear of change, and the power of habit to make things easier.  

It’s all in understanding how the brain works, so I will help you understand how to put...

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The Confidence Dilemma

confidence Mar 17, 2021

The topic of gender and what it means to be male, female, or one of the more recent editions to the gender identity spectrum is gaining a lot of attention in recent years.  Much of our gender identity is shaped by cultural expectations and if you go along with what your culture tells you is expected of someone of your gender, you receive social approval.  To the degree that you don't conform to these norms,  you may be the target of everything from bullying and alienation to...

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Are You Intimidating?

confidence podcast Jan 05, 2021
 

This episode is a solo show, in which Diann shares her history of being told she is intimidating and what she made it mean. She now believes that if you're a female entrepreneur, whether you own a small business, a private practice, a brick and mortar retail store, a coaching empire, or a virtual consultancy, sooner or later, you will be told in one way, shape or form that you are intimidating.

The label might sound a little different and the feedback might be packaged as well-meaning...

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Out of One Box, and Into Another

blog confidence Nov 05, 2020

The human brain loves to identify, label and categorize things. It's how we learn and how the brain can store so much information without ever having an upgrade, or even an update, across the entire span of human life. It's really quite amazing but is also the source of considerable suffering, mainly because there is no such thing as an operations manual for humans. If you are lucky enough to stumble upon this information, it definitely helps you understand why you are the way you are, and...

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Does this Decision Look Good on Me?

blog confidence Sep 30, 2020

Everything we do is a reflection of who we are. Every little thing, and of course the big ones too. Of course, you already know this, but unless you are keeping it in mind and really paying attention to your choices and how you make them, you can find yourself creating a life that just doesn't feel like the one you should be having or set out to create. Most people just drift along through life, making it up as they go along and feeling totally confused when things don't go their way. Well,...

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