F*ck Fearless & Choose Bravery with Heather Vickery

 

If you haven’t heard my cringe-worthy story of how I spent two years thinking about starting this podcast before I finally pulled the trigger, you can go listen to my One Year Podversary episode to hear all the embarrassing details.  During that two-year period of overthinking and creative procrastination, I even flew from LA to Orlando to attend the Podcast Movement Conference, thinking that would inspire me to get off the fence.  

It did not, but it did help...

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Saying No Like You Mean It

 

Two weeks ago we talked about boundaries and if you haven’t listened to that episode yet, I suggest you do.  Boundaries and knowing when to say “no” go together like PB & J. In this companion episode, I will be talking about not the mechanics of saying no (although I do give you a simple strategy for what to do when you’re put on the spot, near the end…) but more of the strategy behind the no.  

If you are a solopreneur, creative...

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Setting Boundaries Like a Boss

 

One of the topics I am asked to speak about the most, whether it is as a speaker, podcast guest, or with my own coaching clients is boundaries.  The subject of boundaries comes up so often because it might seem simple, but is actually quite complicated.   

There is no cookie-cutter, one size fits all situations solution.  Boundaries are culturally determined, affected by our personalities, temperaments,  stage of life, mental health, personal...

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People Pleasing is Killing Your Profits

 

I think it's really important as women and business owners that we understand how our culture has conditioned us to have certain beliefs, expectations, habits, and behaviors that interfere with our ability to achieve our goals and be successful. Most of us don't even realize all the things that we are doing that are killing our profits. So I'm willing to offend, to annoy, and even risk being a trigger because I think for those of you that are ready to hear the unvarnished truth and...

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The Joy of Missing Out

I freaking love technology, even though I'm a bit slow to learn most of it. I love how technology enables me to shop for stuff I need at any time of the day or night, with hat hair and a rosacea breakout, no makeup and wearing my favorite pair of baggy sweatpants. Companies that have free shipping both ways, in addition to my favorite goods and services, will have my business indefinitely, or at least until someone even better comes along. Technology has enabled me to meet, communicate with...

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Be a Guide Dog, Not a Pack Mule

Wednesdays at 5:30 AM, my favorite gym class is totally insane. It's hard to believe that many people in the Portland suburbs are willing to get up at the crack of dawn to stake out a 3'x5' piece of territory in a mirrored room, but it's true. I take this same class every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday at the same time, but the Wednesday instructor has a following that borders on celebrity status. By 5:15, it's literally wall to wall people, jockeying for position and laying claim to the...

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The Mentally Healthy Entrepreneur

Entrepreneurs, freelancers, side hustlers, and gig workers make up a small, but growing slice of the economy. Much of that growth is due to the lingering effects of the recession that hit us over a decade ago. Then there are the Baby Boomers that are getting pushed out of the job market who can't afford to retire, or simply don't want to, the Millennials who deeply value a lifestyle that is not built on being chained to a desk for the better part of four decades, only to get pushed out before...

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Don't be an Advice ATM

boundaries Mar 01, 2021
 

Are you someone who has always been asked for advice? In this week’s solo episode, I tackled the issue of setting boundaries around when to actually give it. Many people will ask for your advice but they do not really need it, they just need someone to listen to them, so you can be empathic and let them know you want to support them, and that’s it.  No need to give advice that you know they will never follow anyway.  

I used to dispense advice like an ATM,...

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Boundaries

boundaries Feb 23, 2021

Have you ever noticed how much difficulty most people have with setting boundaries? And when I say boundaries, I am talking about physical, emotional, sexual, financial, energetic, and time boundaries. Maybe I am taking the whole subject a little too far, but I think boundaries are everything, especially when it comes to personal freedom and living life on your terms. Even if you don't consider yourself much of a people pleaser, you probably give others more of your time, energy, effort, and...

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Unnecessary Suffering

blog boundaries Feb 16, 2021

So much of human behavior is tied to morality, even if we aren't a card-carrying member of any known religion. Be a good boy. Good girls don't. We want to do something because of the way it will make us feel. And we are shamed out of doing it with the threat of feeling the opposite. Manipulating the feels is big business. The music I grew up listening to had lyrics like "How can it be wrong when it feels so right?' and I heard plenty of marketing slogans like "If it feels good, do it.' No...

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