Learning the Hard Way

adhd mastery Apr 06, 2021

Does everybody need to learn the hard way in order to learn anything, or it is just me? I went through so many situations that, looking back, now seem like unnecessary suffering, but at the time, I truly didn't see that I was making a choice. It wasn't until I had accumulated five root canals until I realized that there might be a pattern. Of course, there was. I was clenching my teeth apparently all night long, every night, and through much of the day as well. It was one of the consequences...

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Too Many Ideas is Worse Than Not Enough

adhd mastery Mar 29, 2021
 

If you heard my last solo episode, the one I called Do the Thing,  you’ll see that I am on a roll. You see, I work with creative female entrepreneurs and while each of them is unique,  many of their struggles are far too common.  

This week, I’m going to share my thoughts about how having a super creative brain, which is always spouting one amazing idea after another is actually a problem. Not a problem as in you should feel sorry for me, boo hoo,...

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A Hare in a Tortoise Suit

adhd mastery Mar 23, 2021

We all want to reach our goals faster, take the shortcuts and get more done. After winging it for years, and relying exclusively on my high energy and workaholic tendencies to pull me forward, I finally admitted that I needed a system. It wasn't that I couldn't get shit done, on the contrary. I could produce more than three other people combined, and make it look like magic because I did it so fast. It's just that those periods of killer productivity only seemed to happen when I was staring...

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Do The Thing

adhd mastery Mar 12, 2021
 

I have been planning to write a book for at least twenty years. I would tell myself one day, I'm going to write a book, maybe even a whole series of books. Other people would hear me speaking passionately about my area of expertise and urge me to write a book and I would always say it's on the list (as in The Bucket List.) About ten years ago, I started buying and reading books by writers, for writers, about writing. I really enjoyed them and they inspired me. I signed up for an...

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It's About Time

adhd mastery Mar 10, 2021

One of the things about having ADHD that is pretty stereotypical is having a poor sense of time awareness. One of my ADHD mentors, Eric Tivers of ADHD Rewired calls it Time Blindness. That's a pretty accurate description, at least in my life. I actually have met a few folks with ADHD who are always early for any scheduled event, but they are in the minority. The rest of us are perpetually late, at least until we finally decide that it's about time we were on time. I prefer to call it Time...

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So Many Ideas, Not Enough Time

adhd mastery Feb 02, 2021

I'm a wordsmith. Words and the pictures, stories, metaphors, and analogies that I create from them are my playthings. There are so many things I just can't do. My short term memory sucks, I have zero sense of direction, my math skills are weak and I have a helluva time following directions of any kind, especially written ones. I could go on, but the point it this- I excel in the realm of verbal skills, at something like the 97th percentile on the standard IQ test. There is nothing I love...

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Hitting a Think Hole

adhd mastery Jan 26, 2021

One of the things about having an unusually fast brain is that you have to be super careful about what you let it fixate on. This is a life lesson that took me decades to figure out. You might think of it as overthinking, ruminating, going down the rabbit hole, or even try to glorify it as "research." I'm talking about our tendency to go deep on a topic that has grabbed our attention for whatever reason.

I have spent an incredible amount of time exploring some random topics just because....

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Quick Hits & Big Wins

adhd mastery blog Jan 07, 2021

One of the biggest changes I have made in my life in the last few years is to recognize how much I have focused on immediate gratification.  Not the obsessive-compulsive, addictive definition where you can't stop yourself from eating, drinking, shopping, Facebook scrolling, or whatever, but more of the chasing after things that I knew I could get and fast. Examples of this are: over scheduling my days by booking too many appointments and then having to race from one to another, just...

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Expect the Unexpected

adhd mastery blog Nov 18, 2020

I just arrived at my hotel for a four-day conference. My Uber driver was right on time, at the ungodly hour of 4:30 AM. The Alaska Airlines flight from Portland to Orlando was also on time. I got to sit in the exit aisle, so my 34" inseams were fully extended. The guy seated next to me used the restroom as often as I did, so I didn't even need to create a hassle over that. There was even an empty seat between us, so my stuff could spread itself out. Flight attendants were personable and...

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Winging It

adhd mastery blog Oct 14, 2020

For most of my life, I would just follow my impulses wherever they lead me. If I felt like doing something, I did it. If I didn't feel like it, I didn't. Most of the time, I didn't even try to force myself. It just didn't work. I can be very stubborn with myself. After a while, I started noticing that my impulses took me in all kinds of directions and once I got there, I would be looking around, scratching my head, wondering what the hell I was doing there. Or questioning myself, sometimes...

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