Do you often find yourself trapped in a situation where some recurring requests or favors are thrown at you and you just find it difficult to decline? If there's one of the many things that most people find extremely tough to deal with, it might be learning how to say "no." Wanna know why? Because admit it or not, people always feel the need to be liked, and accepting those requests is just one way to get the validation that we seek.
But it’s not just about that. According to author and happiness researcher, Gretchen Rubin in her book I often refer to the Four Tendencies, obligers do what is expected of them most of the time, but they often let themselves down by not doing what they expect of themselves. I guess you could call this people-pleasing behavior, but it's really just the underlying tendency to leverage others' expectations of us to motivate us, to get things done.
These facts and more on the consequences of being an obliger and the strategies on how you can improve your mindset and learning how to say "no" especially to the favors that make you feel uncomfortable, will all be addressed in this latest episode.
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