How Do You Respond to Expectations?

In this episode, I will introduce you to one of my favorite tools in my business, The Four Tendencies framework for dealing with expectations.  How we deal with expectations, our own and those of others, has a significant impact on our business and personal lives.  Some of us always go the extra mile for others, but let ourselves down on a regular basis and others are the exact opposite. Knowing our own tendency and that of our clients, our team members, and even our friends and family members can make the difference between referral business, testimonials and long term relationships and negative reviews, disappointment and frequent turnover.  

This framework is taken from the book, “The Four Tendencies” by Gretchen Rubin. And in this episode, I will explore each  one: Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, and Rebel, and how they impact our ability to meet expectations.  The information I share will center around the common challenges each tendency faces, as well as their unique strengths. By the end of this episode, you'll have a deeper understanding of your own tendency and how it influences your interactions with others and your approach to meeting expectations.  

There are 5 important questions at the end and an invitation to DM me on Linked In or Instagram to let me know what you think MY tendency is and to share yours!  Don’t forget to grab  the worksheet that summarizes each of the Four Tendencies to use  in your business and with your team, here:


To go deeper after listening: 

  1. How do you typically approach meeting expectations in your business or work life? Do you tend to prioritize meeting the expectations of others or your own?
  2. Have you ever felt misunderstood or frustrated by the expectations placed on you by others? How did this impact your interactions and relationships?
  3. In what ways do you think understanding your tendency in meeting expectations can benefit your mental health and overall well-being?
  4. How do you navigate the tension between meeting the expectations of others and prioritizing your own needs and self-care? What practices or strategies have you implemented to find a balance?
  5. When working with others, what steps can you take to ensure that expectations are clear and achievable for everyone involved?


Want to schedule a Strategy day for planning how to work more effectively with your team based on your (and their) tendencies?  

This would be an excellent use of a VIP Day, but don’t wait because Boss Up Bootcamps are going away soon. Whether it’s a Strategy Date, an Accountability Date or a Brainstorm to Breakthrough intensive, you will be amazed at how fast we can move the needle in your business with focus & action!  Click here for more info and here to schedule a free consultation to see which bootcamp has YOUR name all over it! 


Are we connected on Linked In?  What are we waiting for?


TLDL (time stamps) 

00:02:44 Know your role, clarify expectations, avoid disappointment.

00:04:35 Understanding different perspectives prevents disappointment and anger.

00:09:03 Rule-following, motivated individuals excel in authority roles.

00:12:35 Upholders struggle understanding others; unrealistic expectations.

00:16:30 Persistent questioners viewed negatively, but not true.

00:18:01 Questioners: Asking questions, reluctant to be questioned.

00:22:46 Questioners struggle to answer others' questions due to their own intense curiosity and tendency to generate endless inquiries. 

00:29:07 Obligers at risk for burnout, cultural pressure.

00:34:19 Rebels defy odds to achieve wealth, success.


50% Complete

Two Step

Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit, sed do eiusmod tempor incididunt ut labore et dolore magna aliqua.